Updated: Aug 11, 2021
We are born fighters!!
Humans have the innate ability to fight over trivial things let alone on matters of interest.
Conflicts based on interest, opinions etc have the tendency to start a hostile argument with the other person, but not many are aware of the art of argument.
All over the world, almost a billion arguments breaks out every second!!
Okay...that's a lie!.
But seriously though...we love to argue without fully understanding the impact it is going to leave.
Don't get me wrong, starting an argument isn't always a bad thing.
For people like me, who are introverts...confronting a person can be quite tough and so many of us leave it be without actually making amends and allowing ourselves to be prone to that affliction.
So here are some guiding steps that i have jotted down from my own experience:-
1) Time and Place - If you seriously need to confront a person of their wrongful actions, then may i suggest finding an appropriate place with enough privacy for you both. The timing is also very crucial as it sets the whole mood for what is going to follow next.
You do not want to ruin a perfectly good mood of the people around...having said that, a public place for confrontation is a no no. It shows the person confronting has malicious intent to malign the other person's reputation. It affects your credibility in setting the narrative.
2) Confrontation - Confronting someone can be quite tough...as we are directly basing the other person as culprit, therefore, having a proof of their wrongdoings is a must. I am afraid without a concrete evidence, one should not just start an argument as it is only going to make things worse. A solid evidence can be as simple as a witness or finding out the lie without the hassle of digging through that person's privacy.
Note : Never disrupt anyone's privacy for your own benefit....be it what may.
3) Preconceived notions - When arguing with someone, it is imperative that one should not fixate on just accusing the other person and being fixed on your views. Give the other person a chance to defend themselves or a chance for them to reflect on their actions. It won't be nice of you to just hurl bad words to the other person without giving them a chance to talk, let alone understand the reason of their action...so cool your horses and listen carefully, you might just get the other person to realize their mistake.
4) Endgame - A great deal of thought is required for an argument to end on a positive note. Ending an argument is an art not many of us know. It is the same like "biting a bit more than one can chew" and therefore, one must know their limits beforehand. If you know at what point to stop so that everything stays civil, then you my dear, have mastered the art of distressed argument. Many people think they can end the argument on the good note, not realizing that they have forever scarred their relation with the other person.
Understand well in advance, your actions too have reactions..so the other person might also become hostile in their demeanor by not accepting any point you lay on them or to your surprise(very rarely) understand your prerogative and start to make amends.
The most important part is to
Starting an argument is very easy but to end them often takes a lot of effort, time and energy.
So understand that arguing, just for the sake of arguing is going to bring one in peril waters.